Thursday, February 23, 2012

Grandma and Grandpa Bragg: Memories of Them and Their House

This "special edition" of my blog is dedicated to memories of my dad's parents and their place by the Flambeau River in Ladysmith. I want to record these memories in case my kids are interested someday, but also I'd like to put them out there to invite any of my older cousins or other Bragg relatives to reminisce and maybe share some of their own memories as well. I just wish I could remember more-! Please forgive the gaps and inconsistencies in my memory; I was a kid, afterall...

While they were living, we made the trip to visit Grandma and Grandpa about once a month, I'd guess. It seemed like a very long drive, but Rhinelander's only about an hour and a half from Ladysmith, so it wasn't actually that bad. Eventually we'd pull into town and drive past the familiar landmarks... a big park and playground on the right, a Dairy Queen (?) where the road bends, and old parked train cars by the grocery store. Their place was beyond town, out in the country. We'd get to their gravel driveway and drive down, as I recall. We'd see the garage first... it was surprisingly far from their house.

Then the house! It was white with green (or black?) trim. It felt like we entered through the back (side) door, because the front of the house was facing out toward the river and yard. So we would enter and pass through a hall where there was a large black and white aerial photograph of the property hanging on the wall. We spent a lot of time looking at that photograph. It was pretty impressive.

The center of the house-- my favorite room-- was their living room, which I remember as having hardwood floors, white walls, and a large oval-shaped, green rag rug (that Grandma made) spread out in front of the fireplace. There was a clock on their fireplace mantel that chimed the hour, and a straight-backed ornate wooden chair with green velvet upholstery to the right. They had a color TV in that corner (years before we had a color TV). As I recall, the color was imperfect and had kind of a greenish tint; I remember trying to tune in a better color for them.

There was a large covered stereo and record player that looked like a piece of furniture. Resting on it (or near it?) was a beautiful Gone-With-the-Wind style hurricane lamp. It had two round white globes painted with roses.

Their chair and couch were olive green and kind of flat and modern-looking. There was a wooden stool in the living room that had knotty legs and a primitive style.

In between the living room and the dining area there was a toybox. I wish I could remember all of the toys-! I remember that I loved knowing what I was going to find in that box... they were always the same toys but we didn't see them often enough for them not to be special and interesting. My favorite was a little tile puzzle... you had to slide the tiles left and right, up and down, in order to put together the image (wish I could remember what the image was). There was also a colorful metal top with a wooden handle that you had to push up and down before sitting back and letting it spin. And there was a Raggedy Ann and Andy book with wonderful pictures.

I don't remember it directly, but in photographs there was a hutch with blue and white dishes in it in the dining area, as well as copper molds hung on the walls of the kitchen. It's funny because I don't remember getting the idea from Grandma Bragg, but those are things that looked classic and familiar to me, and I display them prominently in my home.

Grandma's kitchen had real wood paneling, narrow like beadboard and piney-looking, if I remember right. The overall effect was dark and warm, but there was a window over the sink that added a lot of light and cheer. There was a breakfast bar / counter with stools pulled up to it. She had pictures on the wall of bowls of fruit and something with a dog in it, I think.

To the side of the kitchen area was a sitting nook with  a couple of wooden chairs. They were straight-backed table chairs, with woven seats. There was a picture on the wall there of Aunt Carol when she was a girl-- her and her horse. She had a secret smile and wavy reddish hair... she was beautiful, fresh-faced, and free, and I wondered about her.

Down a little hallway was a utility room, on the right. All I remember about that room is that it was packed with things, that there was a guitar hanging on the wall, and that there was a little daybed in there with two cylindrical pillows that looked like candy wrapped in paper. I was very impressed with those pillows :).

To the left was Grandpa's room. We weren't supposed to go in there but I remember he had a great, masculine-looking dresser with a tall narrow mirror and all kinds of interesting drawers. Sometimes he would go in there and open one of the drawers and pull out polished rocks to show us.

Grandma's room was larger, with a white bedspread (the kind with bumpy raised dots in a design... is that chenille?). There was a big stuffed animal in there... a cat, I think. She had a little blue and white porcelain figurine of a girl feeding ducks on her dresser... I have that figurine now.

To add to all this, there was a xylophone in the basement!

There was a covered deck on the front of the house-- a wonderful outdoor space. Grandma and Grandpa had bird feeders out there... I remember they gave peanut butter to the chick-a-dees. They had these great whimsical wooden stools that were painted a limey green and looked like mushrooms. The lawn was large and spacious. There was a stone structure (a former barbeque?) in the yard that had been rebuilt into a shrine, with a statue of the Virgin Mary. She was behind an enclosure but I loved to look at her because she was standing at the top of a set of stairs that were perfectly to scale for her. It was like she could have been real, could have walked up those tiny steps.

There were trees around the edge of the yard that mostly obscured the view of the river, but you could see it in places. The house was situated high in relation to the river; in order to get to the water you had to walk down a winding trail. But we were hardly ever allowed to go down by the water, and never alone; people had drowned in the river, so we were expected to stay up by the house.  But that was okay... we'd play croquet on the lawn or look for arrowheads by the field.

Another place we could go was to Grandpa's little hidden stream that flowed in the woods on the other side of the lawn. In the shade of the trees you could cross the stream over a little bridge... where there was a tin cup hanging, for drinks. So fun; NOTHING tastes better than cold stream water on a hot day.

I don't remember a lot about Grandpa Bragg... mostly visual impressions. I remember him being outside and wearing a straw hat with sunglasses clipped over the top of his regular glasses. He often had an unlit cigarette in his mouth; he'd quit years ago, but wasn't ready to give up the habit of having the cigarette nearby.

Sometimes he had a bag of chocolate stars in his pocket. He'd always share.

He liked to polish stones and make jewelry. I have a tiny bracelet he gave me; hard to believe my wrist was ever that small! He also liked to carve and paint wooden birds, for Christmas ornaments. I'm sure every one he made is now somebody's family treasure; I have one and I think my parents have a couple more.

I remember Grandma and Grandpa called each other "Laddy" and "Lassie".

Grandma Bragg was more formal than my other grandma; she had been a school teacher, so expected good behavior from young people. But I remember her spending a lot of time playing cards with us (rummy), teaching us to count and keep track of sets. When I was learning to write her and I exchanged letters in the mail. I knew she had travelled to China and other interesting places with her sister, after her children had grown. She had lots of great books in the house... hardcover sets she had probably purchased one at a time. She quilted, knitted afghans, and tatted lace. I remember wonderful meals... beef roast and peppery creamed potatoes. Also chocolate cake with coffee in the frosting.

I remember in later years, when they lived in a smaller house in town, that she had nice plants, including violets and ferns. Some of her plants were hung by strings of colorful beads... a Bohemian detail that caught my eye.

She wore a brooch pinned to her shirt; I don't remember if she wore other jewelry. I don't think so.

I don't remember much more than that. There were a few big family get-togethers at Grandma and Grandpa's... I remember lots of cousins, especially the Voss cousins. Jean, Elaine, and Rosie, who were closest to me in age, and the ones who played with us the most. All the older Voss girls seemed very glamorous back then, athletic and beautiful with long straight hair. I remember playing baseball (or watching it be played) in the field by Grandma and Grandpa's house.

When you're a kid and go places, visiting people, you take it for granted that those people and places will always be there. An hour and a half car ride to Ladysmith feels like forever; you have no idea how quickly ten years will go by... or how many changes will occur in that span.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Dad's Birthday and Introducing: Teddy


Dad's amazed that my child prodigy can already drive a tractor
I'll start this blog by wishing my dad a Happy Birthday. My brothers, sister, and I are very lucky to have had a dad like him.

Since it's Dad's birthday, I'd like to take a few minutes to refect about him :).

First, let's be truthful. He wasn't one of the "fun" dads. We grew up with rules and lots of supervision. But we were protected and cared for and given one heckuva childhood.

We travelled much of the United States (and parts of Canada) on different family trips (all loaded up in the station wagon, with a tent or camper in tow), visiting landmarks and relatives along the way. We grew up together in the family home (that he built!) on 40 acres of beautiful wooded land, and were provided with bicycles and hoola hoops and all the paraphenalia for an active, creative childhood.

His interest in nature inspired us, and we grew up collecting leaves and rocks and fossils... learning the names of the various trees around us at an early age. We always had pets and a garden and chores to do (piling wood, washing dishes). One of my earliest memories is of him and mom canning peaches together.

We didn't have lots of neighbor kids to play with (a few, though-- Karen Z. and Jim Skubal!) but we had lots of adventures, working together to build forts, biking up and down Shepard Lake Road, and playing outside (statue maker, Red Coats & Blue Coats, baseball... you name it, we probably played it).

Mom was the regular cook of our household, but once a week Dad would cook up one of his specialties... home-made pizza, lasagna, and tacos were some of the favorites. Unless someone was deathly ill we never missed church. We were allowed to have summer jobs, but schoolwork-- not money-- was the priority. He spoke to us in complete sentences, didn't swear or drink, and filled our house with books. We always had paper and pencils and a safe place to doodle, write, and dream.

Yes, there were spankings. But there was also love, stability, and structure. And now that we're adults, we realize how much we were given, and that maybe we didn't have it so bad :). And Dad's respectful affection for his adult children and their spouses / significant others is much appreciated. He did his part raising us; now he's happy to just enjoy us and let us be whoever we've turned out to be. He is loving and helpful and sympathetic.

It has been quite an example, too, to have someone as deeply moral as him in my life. He doesn't lie, he doesn't cheat (even on taxes)... if he runs across someone in trouble, he helps. My childhood is dotted with memories of him helping strangers... for awhile, a homeless woman and her daughter lived with us (they vanished after Dad suggested maybe the daughter should be in school). At one state park we encountered a drunken Native American who needed a ride... we loaded him up in the station wagon and took him where he needed to go. Stranded motorists, people needing a jump in parking lots-- whenever he encountered a person in need, he helped.

His deep love and respect for his parents and my mom's parents set a wonderful example for me. We visited them all frequently and I never heard an unkind or sarcastic word spoken in regard to any relative. TV shows always joke about the "monsters-in-law" and other ridiculous relatives, but that's not what I saw in my childhood and that's not what I experience with my in-laws today. I've learned that if you look for the good in other people, you usually find it. I know the world's not full of perfect people; in fact, that was one of the big lessons of my teen years-- I had come to expect such exemplary behavior from adults I was constantly surprised at the "real-world" adults I encountered who were, let's just say, less than exemplar.

Michael LOVES piling firewood
Well! As you might guess, I could go on and on about my dad's good qualities, but at some point he's going to get embarrassed, so I better stop here and sum it all up with one more "Happy Birthday, Dad." And thank you.


As far as life here in Colfax the past few weeks... it's been typical. Michael and Emma take care of the firewood and have been busy with basketball. Emma's big Destination Imagination tournament is coming up this weekend.


Nice to look out my kitchen window this winter and see this


We've had a mild winter... only one cold spell I can think of (made all the colder because we were having problems with our furnace that week), and only a modest amount of snow. It's snowing right now, though... we have about two inches of new snow. Very wet and packy.




Emma, Michael, and Leila



Leila enjoyed her first Valentine's Day at school. Her class had a party and she came home with a box full of valentines and candy from her classmates. She likes having "friends".


Candy!!!!!!!

One big change in our family is that we've adopted a little dog named Teddy. We found Teddy at the animal shelter in Menomonie a couple of weeks ago, and were able to bring him home last Tuesday.
Teddy Hurlburt
It wasn't easy, getting Teddy. We weren't the only people who wanted to adopt him. We were only third out of four applicant families. We really wanted him but tried not to get our hopes too high.
(Blogger changed its format recently and I am having trouble figuring out how to do things, so if my blog looks kind of herky jerky this time, sorry for that).


Daddy's new baby

Anyway, we filled out a 2 page application at the Humane Society, where we had to answer all manner of questions about our home and what our plans for Teddy were. They called our vet for a background check and I did two phone interviews. We had to sign a contract agreeing to have Teddy fixed by a certain date. The whole process took several weeks, but in the end it was worth it... we were able to bring Teddy home.
Teddy's new family
The people at the humane society think Teddy is a Pomeranian, about 3 months old. He was found in a Walmart parking lots with a blue collar that said "Teddy" on it. A lady found him cowering by the shopping carts. She picked him up and walked all over the parking lot, looking for a possible owner, but Teddy didn't seem to belong to anyone. She then took him inside the store and had the intercom page for anyone who had lost a dog, and waited 45 minutes for a response. Again, no one came for Teddy.  So she took him to the animal shelter.

Bob and his girlfriend Nancy came for a visit



This new blogger format is very frustrating! I apparently have no control over where pictures end up or how things are centered.

Anyway, Teddy is fitting into our family just fine. He's already made quite a bit of progress as far as house-training, and he no longer cries when you put him in the kennel at night. We let him run all around the house, but his favorite thing is to snuggle up on someone's lap and get love. The kids are absolutely delighted with him, and Jon is (in my opinion) cute in how he seems to dote on Teddy.



Jack's serious side


I'm going to be a musician someday!
Lovely Lindsay
He's simple, but we love him
The maestros
Jack, Lindsay, and Jonathan came over for a visit on Sunday. Jack seems to like Teddy a lot, though at first he wasn't too sure. He likes chasing after Teddy... not being the one chased.

Emma took about 30 pictures of their visit, and I was going to post a few more but blogger's starting to act up and I would be more than a little disgusted if I lost this blog before it posted. So I'm going to hurry up and post it.